Delicious on style28 Oct 2009
I can go mad on those who buy shoes for ten grand and yet I’m running a site mainly focusing on apparel and visual appearance. So clothes and personal attributes seem to be important to me and it still frustrates me when I meet a really sweet girl and she disqualifies herself by telling me how her biggest interests are clothes and shopping. Am I being contradictive? Am I being shallow and hating it? No, not at all and this is why: Fashion and trends are BS, style is everything.
You can’t buy style. It’s that simple. It doesn’t matter how much fancy clothes and expensive brands you invest in yourself. Those clothes do communicate, and you will definitely be judged by them but they won’t communicate who you are until you start seeing them as an extension of your personality. Practically everyone can feel this; you might like a car but you won’t buy it because it’s not you, or you love the way a certain celebrity dress but you won’t dress the same because it’s not who you are. If you want to change your clothing style you have to go deeper than your wardrobe.
Style is not subjective so don’t confuse it with sense. What’s appropriate at a given occasion, or how you match your clothes and accessories are subjects of sense. Sense is definitely something to strive for but it won’t survive without style. Style is what you are, not what you wear. It’s how you walk, talk and behave. It’s very much about being comfortable with who you are. The tricky part with style is that you can’t fake it. It has to be there and when it is, you don’t have to think about it. But if you want to add some style into your life or change your existing one, there’re plenty of methods to do so; role models, NLP and life experience being three good ones.
My point is that when you got style you don’t have to think about what to wear. You could pretty much go out in any random combination from your wardrobe, or even butt naked only wearing a pair of shoes and it would look good. I guess that’s what TrendGiveAfuck is trying to do. We dress oddly, ugly and sometimes provocative, but with a little bit of sense and heaps of style we still fit in everywhere.
Try it yourself – push yourself out of the comfort zone, for example by wearing something different, and notice that by believing in yourself you also grow as a person.